The feeling of orphans that raise children has its own characteristics. The United States once conducted a study that surveyed more than 1,300 mothers and found that 80% of them believed they did not have enough friends and 58% felt lonely. Many people develop a depressed tendency after becoming parents. Although friends may not be able to stop or resolve unhappy life, losing friends will definitely add to the depressed situation.
After becoming a mother, many friends will naturally not contact you, even if you once thought it was very important, whether you knew you were very busy or your body was very busy. And some friends are something you don't mind ignoring. In short, when you finally have time to say something, you don't know who you can find.
{92} Sometimes, this transformation is lasting. Because when you become a parent, after a period of time, your friends may become like you and become parents, and you will have even fewer opportunities to contact. And you must also admit that you are responsible for the loss of these friends, because you focus on taking care of your children, and children who are committed to nourishing goodness may make you completely ignore your heart and cannot avoid ignoring your friends, and it is a long time. Friends faded...The loneliness of the whole mother is particularly profound, and there are other complex emotions: guilt, sadness, and perhaps fear. Maybe you used to be proud of having so many good friends, but now it's difficult to talk to someone. Sometimes you can’t help but worry, if you keep going like this and cannot regain your old friendship or cultivate new friendships, what will your social life be like?
It’s not the only one who has this feeling! After becoming a parent, many people were extremely alone. When the child is young, he often has to be with the little ones alone, but he cannot talk. When they get older, even if he can talk, he cares about completely differently than you, unless you want to discuss what clothes dinosaurs and dolls are going to wear today.
Many data also point out that our generation can get far fewer true friends than previous generations. This has something to do with the communication convenience brought by social media. You may have a lot of one-time interactions and some netizens, but this is not a high-quality friend.
Even if we don't talk about social media, as we grow older, friends will continue to decrease. This is due to the arrangements we make about time. We will just want to come with people with frequency and aspirations. The older you are, the more precious you can recognize your time.
The United States once conducted a study that surveyed more than 1,300 mothers and found that 80% of them believed that they did not have enough friends and 58% felt lonely. Many people develop a depressed tendency after becoming parents. Although friends may not be able to stop or resolve unhappy life, losing friends will definitely add to the depressed situation.
When you become a mother, your friends are suddenly divided into three categories: people without children, people with children, and people who become friends because of children. Under normal circumstances, it is difficult for you to continue to hang out with friends who don’t have children, because your activities are often time-limited and you can’t stay outside so late and not go home. What’s even more cool is that friends who don’t have children often cannot talk to you about the focus of your current life - your children. They have no experience, no shared veins, and no interest in this topic. What should I do for
? At this stage, you'd better think about friendship in different ways. Friendship at a young age may make people devote themselves to it, but after having children, your friend may be the mother and sports coach of your child’s training class. Don’t discuss whether this is considered friendly? But you have already set the pre-decision criteria for being friends--having a common topic. Start with people you can actually contact in life and open your mind to make friends, such as when you take your children to the park for exercise, or maybe you can observe which parent does not have a low-headed slider and is very devoted to moving with your children, or maybe he will be a friend you can make.
Start with links, don't be afraid to meet new friends, find like-minded people who can understand your role as a mother. Friends are originally intimate, not a number.