Once, a group of mature mothers gathered together to chat, talking about the interaction between her son and her. Each story is classic but heartbreaking. The conclusion is that the son has lost a sensitive heart, which hurts his mother's heart without knowing it. I didn’t expect that in the end the chat, it turned out to be a painful experience for everyone, and it hurts the most.
A mother said that every time her son responded to her on Line, she replied in a single word, "Yeah", "Oh", "Okay", "Know". Later, she was very angry, so she just started to learn about her son and answered the words "刘", "刘", "刘", "刘", "刘" and "刘". One day, my son had an urgent matter and needed his mother to help him, so he just replied coldly. Later, my son couldn't stand it and surrendered, so he had to answer obediently and didn't dare to deal with it at will.
Another mother shared that her whole family had an appointment to have a foreign family trip. The son said that she wanted to join with her girlfriend. When the mother knew that the objection, she stopped going and had to accept it. It was just that when I went abroad, my mother had a cold and was not suitable for her body, so she hid in the hotel and didn't leave. She was wearing a mask and said less, afraid of spreading it to everyone. As a result, her son came to ask if she didn't like her girlfriend and why she seemed so cold. This mother said that if her son could use this to care about her girlfriend's mood and care about her physical health.
The son's flickering marriage shocked. Still asked: Are you jealous?After everyone laughed, I began to tell my story. Last summer, my son suddenly sent me a photo on WeChat, two mainland marriage certificates, and the next one was my son and girlfriend who were innocent and innocent smiles holding the marriage certificate. I always felt surprised at the moment, and I couldn't be happy. At this time, everyone has already spoken out loud and I am the one who wants me the most.
Although my son inadvertently told me that he might want to get married, I think he was a joke with his personality, so I didn't agree, just asked him if he had thought it through clearly? In fact, I was not ready yet, so how could I accept a strange woman and didn’t want to be a mother-in-law, and I was not familiar with her. Unexpectedly, my son would give me a briefing in a few months, which forced me to accept the facts.
It may be too sudden. When I saw the message, my heart was broken, and I had to slowly lift it up and repair it afterwards. Suddenly I thought of the mood in the article "Ten Feelings of Mother's Bamboo" by Teacher Long Yingtai. I want to tell the world that as sons, in fact, parents have a slim heart, especially mothers. Mom is the best and best for her son, but it still takes some time to learn to let go and accept another woman. Please prepare your mother mentally and act as a bridge between two women so that her mother can understand her and accept her more.
Modern parents have been taught to be light and light about this. Children choose any companion to bless you, do not intervene, and ask less. But mothers are also human beings. The deep feelings for their son are needed to have a process of turning and adjusting to prepare to accept another woman as a family member, and to accept that the son will transfer the lovely eyes to her.
I bless you, but I need to accept the process. We have been gathering for a long time. In my memory, you are still the little boy who held my little hand tightly and asked me "Why" all the way. I haven't come back to my senses yet. You want to get married, but you, a stupid son, just ask, are you jealous? Son, I just lost my mind.
Life stage: Different directions of creating a child, or perhaps the mother's heart will never be prepared, or even do not want to prepare at all. Everyone knows that sooner or later, parents must let go so that their children can have a world belonging to them and form another family. But we don't know when it's time to really let go. We have no experience, but letting go requires some excitement and courage.
Knowing that I still have a glass heart that makes me feel a little bit unconscious, I don’t want to admit it, and I am afraid that I will also be in trouble. After the incident, I can only make a decisive decision, slowly digest and accept it slowly, but it is actually shocking. Seeing his grown son throwing into another woman's embrace, and his meaning is really delicious. Accept it, it takes some time to digest. I had to ask my little daughter whether I could give my parents some time to adapt and accept before getting married, and arrange my boyfriend to stay with my family at more time, so that we can get to know him, know him and like him before going to get married?
A friend said that the parents' plan always includes children, but there are never parents in the plan. This is the most different thing between parents and children. As the child grows up, the outside world is filled with the energy of curiosity and exploration. He can't wait to recognize this new world, test his abilities, and display his abilities. On the contrary, parents have experienced all the benefits and losses and ups and downs in life, and know that family is the docking of life and the basis of emotions.
One wants to go home, one just comes out, one is looking for stability in the heart, and one is looking for dreams outward. The goal of being destined to go is to go against the truth. Therefore, the gap between parents' expectations is relatively large, and there is no reproach, but life practice has different goals at different times.
Remind those who are maids, don’t think that their parents are always strong, and their parents also have a slim heart, but they just don’t say it.
This article was originally published on the "50+" website, original text: [Ding Lingjuan Column] Parents have a slim heart, but the children don't know