There are many modern double-paid families, so there are not many parents who ask their grandparents to help bring their parents. However, the teaching methods of each family and generation are closely related to life habits. It is more important to master communication with the elderly and to be self-psychologically adaptable.
父母與祖父母間的教養衝突，很多時候是來自於權力與責任失衡，讓兩代間的裂痕越來越深，最後逼得孩子面臨「選邊站」的心理壓力，對孩子，以及家族關係都是傷害。 Children will observe the communication between their parents and grandparents from an early age, and use this as a basis to develop their relationship with their grandparents, so a healthy family relationship can also become a good education.
{9 Relationship is more important than disciplineThe consultant psychologist Zheng Xiang said that before asking the boss to help the child, the father and mother can first construct the following basic knowledge. When a problem occurs, they can respond and deal with it according to these principles.
1. Bringing the power and responsibility of education back to yourselfIt is also possible that grandparents and children have more time than themselves, but parents should remember that the right and execution of discipline should still be in their own hands. Zheng Xiang is a good psychological teacher to supplement the essence of discipline lies in "company and guidance", rather than punishment.
After the discussion and handling of children after the situation occurs, the perspective and ideas of looking at each matter, and guiding children to learn that they will be responsible for their own choices, these processing processes require parents to spend time and time, from sharing and communicating every day, let children clearly know the subject of discipline, and make them willing to cooperate with them, which is effective discipline.
Because the values and views between the two generations are not the same, inconsistent teaching is a common situation. Compared with inconsistent teaching, the relationship between parents and grandparents is not harmonious, which will have more impact on the harm caused to children. When a child is confused because of different teaching methods, try to explain to the child: "Grandma and dad and mom love you very much, but the way they love you is different. These methods do not have who is wrong, good or bad, but they just have different considerations and values." Talking to the child to discuss, think and distinguish will also help the child enter the school in the future and face the personality and requirements of different teachers.
3. Do not erase the merits of grandparents teach children to respect their grandparents. At the same time, grandparents should also teach their children to respect their parents, avoid criticizing or complaining about the other party in front of their children, forcing their children to choose a side, and listening to whom. Otherwise, the child may face the psychological pressure of loyalty and betrayal, and in the end it will be counterproductive, and even who does not listen to them. (
We cannot force our grandparents to take care of their children in a way that we can take care of our children, and we cannot forcefully enforce the rules we have ordered, but for snacks or online, or for flexible practices, it is not strictly prohibited, but limited use, reducing the strength of long and more agile! (